About Me & This Blog

Who Am I you're wondering and why should I read yet another blog?

Hello sexy people and welcome to my blog, Lashes, Lip-Service & Love! I’m Fiorella*, a married woman with a successful career and two kids. Oh but did I mention that I’m also on the cusp of turning 40, just starting to explore my bisexuality and a polyamorous lifestyle, with my handsome husband in tow?

This blog will be my story with contributed content sprinkled in. I’m excited and nervous to share my crazy journey with you but I’m hopeful that it will inspire, bring awareness, or hell, maybe even get some of you turned on.

I’ll share with you how it all began, the adventures we’ve had and keep you posted as the exploration continues. There will be laughs and there will be unadulterated honesty. I promise not to tug on those heart-strings too much but I will share some of the agonizing experiences we’ve navigated through (and likely will continue to encounter).

Let me start this blog by trying to explain polyamory. According to Wikipedia, polyamory “is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy".

It’s important to remember that polyamory is not just sex parties and orgies (although I’m sure those are a blast), it’s more, so much more… Polyamory is also different from an open relationship or from swinging. It’s understanding we all have the capacity for limitless love and that this type of lifestyle allows you to experience and receive love in different ways because people are different damn it. It’s not expecting one person to be able to give you everything because that’s unreasonable, instead polyamory allows you to fill your cup with the love of many.

Now, the configuration of a polyamorous relationship can differ and it can change over time. There are lots and lots of formation alternatives; “V” types, Triads, Quads, Z or N types and more. Go ahead, I’ll wait, you can take some time to process this overload of delicious insight.

Some formerly monogamous couples (like hubby and myself) come as a package deal, at least in the early stages, committing to only play with others when their primary partner is involved or at least present. Some people have one primary partner, two or more primary, or no primary partners. Further, the number of secondary partners could differ from person to person and how you communicate, live, and love with these partners can vary for each combination of people.

Polyamory can be fun, it can be rewarding, it can feel fucking magical but let’s be honest we poly folks live in the real world too which is filled with challenges meant to test us and our relationships. Choosing to get into a polyamorous relationship requires a LOT of work (on the self and the relationship), a lot of communication and relentless honesty. I’m looking forward to digging into this more with you and continuing to share my enveloping story with you.

🖤🖤Fiorella🖤🖤